What's Up With the Name???

I'm blogging about the name because I'm beating around the bush about another entry that is near and dear to my heart. Until then, we shall press on towards this topic...UGLYFirst. Most people when I originally had this as my email address took issue with it Now, I can't for the life of me understand why, afterall, it wasn't their email address, it was mine. I heard of a lot of "ewww, I don't like that" and "you're not ugly, why would you use that name" or simply "you need to change that, I don't like it". In the words of Noxzema Jackson (To Wong Fu, Thanks For Everything Julie Newmar) "Approval neither desired nor required!", that was the attitude I took when it came to my email address name. I liked it and that's all that mattered, plus it had a far deeper meaning. Everything in life has a meaning, there is more than what you see on the surface, everything has it's purpose and place in life......all the good and the bad.

You know, often if a person just ask, they might get an answer that will help them better understand matters that leave them perplexed. Only 2 people bothered to ask me what it meant and even after knowing the meaning still didn't like the fact that I was using it And to that I say, if I governed my life based on what others thought, what kind of life would that be? I wouldn't be living, I would merely exist and last I checked that makes for a horribly long row to hoe!

UGLYFirst is a acronym......

U: You

G: Gotta

L: Love

Y: Yourself

First!

If you don't love you, then how in the world can you have love for me? It's a very simply principle, love begets love. I person that doesn't love him or herself simply can not send out love to others, it's impossible. While they may think they are loving others, they aren't. Self-love, self-appreciation and self-esteem are so important, they give you the guts to show others how you want to be treated and love and what you will and won't stand for. Also, it aides in the things that you stand for. Without self-love you really can't stand for anything because you're so busy being down on yourself you can't look up long enough to realize your own morals and standards. Self-love isn't arrogant or rude, it's simply says to others, "no you can't talk to me like that", "I won't allow you to hit me", "no I won't settle for just anything because I love me too much for that". Self-love says, I know who I am and what I want, that's the bottom line.

When you are loving you and appreciating all that encompasses you, people are drawn to that positive engery you radiate. I know what you're saying, but UGLY, there are some things I don't like about myself. We all have things that we don't like and would like to change about ourselves, that goes without saying. As we grow and mature and continue to live in this world, change should occur. Like I always say, "if you aren't changing, you aren't growing", some change isn't always good change, but from that we learn the lesson that is before us and do better the next time. You've met those people, day after day, month after month, year after year, they do the same thing. So routine-driven that to change their course would upset the entire applecart. They are so content with their state that to alter it in any way is unthinkable, but I wonder, how happy, truly happy these people must be. I think not much, but I could be wrong. It just seems to me after awhile, they would become dull and super boring......and certainly not learning anything because they've become so complacent. Now I'm not saying jump up tomorrow and go beserk and try to change your entire life in one day. But a little change every now and then would make your life a wee bit better than it was the day before. Go off the path sometimes, try Thai food for the first time, go to a book reading, go to the Art Musuem, take a different way home, meet new people, change the channel in the car. Just love you enough to live a little more! 

I won't go into how self-love can enhance your love life and personal relationships, that's another entry for a different day. Before you lay down and when you get up you should look in the mirror and tell the person that's looking back at you that you love them, unapologetically, unconditionally with every fiber in your being. [If I have gone astray in this entry, please forgive me, I have a tendacy to do that, sometimes I get caught up and forget from whince I first started.]

Until next time.....continue to love, live, laugh and learn!

UGLYFirst